Tuesday, March 8, 2011


Love between a family pet is so intense! I don't know whether it's the innocence, lack of human language or the beauty of something exotic. 'DANTE' is my 20 pound Maine Coon cat and I simply love him. The devotion and unconditional love he gives me makes me want to fall in love with him everyday.  Each day it's more and more. Not only is he gorgeous to look at but seeing his exotic coat with the paint brush that God made, makes me bewildered. It's like a canvas that was created with such expertise that even 'Picasso 'would be  in awe. The sound of him deeply purring or the endless open /closed eyes gazing lovingly at me while laying in total freedom on his back  on my lap for hours makes my heart flutter. His love is not there all the time but when it is ,its extreme and a feeling that no human being can give. It is unconditional, expressive, devotional and respectful. Maybe as a creative artist I can relate to that intensity. It's a feeling that only you can experience if you have a 'DANTE' in your life.



As  the saying goes 'ALL FIVE FINGERS ARE NOT THE SAME' . The more people  that are involved in a particular situation, the more  points of view. It's always hard to come to terms with these points of views. You say yes ... I say no. How in God's name do we come to a mutual agreement on a subject ? This takes allot of skill and wisdom from a third person who is looking at the problem objectively. Of course as much as we hate the word 'EMOTION' it just never ever leaves us. Humans have an emotional side to them regardless. We are built on this foundation and we try in our daily lives to omit this crazy 'THING' but we just can't. So when there is emotion ,there is bound to be different points of views. Do we often feel that our point of view is correct and the others not so correct? Yes.... this seems to be a situation for all of us at some time or the other. Sometimes these points of views never get resolved and we are left with a terrible void and we must take this as a choice we made. Trying to understand the other persons point of view on the same subject matter takes skill and patience. But then that's a whole lot harder than saying  'to hell with it' !



There is always a time in life when one has to come to face to face with different issues. The issues we know are always on our own terms and one faces these issues entirely in our own thoughts,regardless of how many people are involved . It's not easy to face obstacles or deal with life's problems on your own, but then do we really have anyone holding our hand throughout these feelings? As much as we all wish we can rely on a support system... the bottom line is, that no matter what the conflict is, we have to face it alone and with great strength or sadness. The matter of the heart as we all know is not so easy to define. It has a mind of its own and when the inner  conflict arises  then the mind and heart don't see eye to eye. Anger and frustration tend to leave us blind with the simple task of facing the wrath of life. Face to Face is not easy. Dealing with death,loneliness,divorce,broken hearts,disease and human conflict are all heavy subjects. No one can understand what you are facing regardless of all the support and compassion ,until you come face to face alone.



I often wonder how many of us have the need or intense desire to express ourselves. Often in life we have empty hearts  where the  brush strokes of emotion and the desire to be felt gets totally lost due to life. Whether it is a relationship between two lovers,relatives or friends ,the need to express anger,hurt or love is a very complex feeling . Sometimes the need to tell someone how hurt you have been or how much you need to tell them you love them ,is so complicated. The so called 'NEED' can be so confused with simple words of being dramatic,over emotional and lack of maturity. We go through our lives in fear of expressing what needs to be done. The consequences can be quite extreme and can leave you even more empty than before, but then do we stop ourselves from expressing what we feel and live in these thoughts and feel the void forever? Unspoken words of having no expectation from the people you love can be extremely powerful and so can spoken words of hurt and anger. Either way the sword is sharp....
You have to make the clear choice and either live with the fear of losing someone forever or gain their love by beginning the relationship with a better understanding  of each others needs. No matter what... the words of the heart have their own  cruel language.